Expected Behavior at Home

Different homes may have different sets of expectations. Whatever you decide is right for your home, it is important to set the expectations and then follow through. To help you get started here are a few tips other families use:

Example #1 | Use positive wording

When misbehavior occurs offer positive alternatives instead of harsh criticism.

Negative Reaction Positive Alternative
Don’t run. Walk.
Stop yelling. Use your inside voice.
No playing catch inside. Play catch out in the yard.

Example #2 | Be a teacher

If you have to say no, give a reason why.

Scenario: While shopping your child asks you to buy him a toy. He already has toys and you are short on time. You tell your child “No, we cannot buy that toy today. You already have a toy in the car to play with on the way home.”

If your child accepts your answer make sure to compliment him.

Example #3 | Reward positive behavior

Use positive reinforcement to teach children what actions are accepted and desired. Rewards don’t need to cost a thing. Try sitting down with your child to find out what rewards would work best.

  • Ask your child to make a list of the things they enjoy like going to the park or getting ice cream together. This will help you determine what they are motivated by.
  • Create a special "reward" basket of toys that you already own, but they only get to play with when they have shown what was expected. You can do this with stickers as well to earn the basket of toys.
  • Create a menu of rewards, such as special dinners, special desserts, computer time, game night, watching extra TV, extra book time, etc.
  • Create celebration dances or songs.
  • Create a system of recognition. If one of your expectations is that your child will do chores each week, create a board that lists each chore. When your child has completed a chore, use a sticker to mark it complete. At the end of the week, give a reward if all chores are complete. Consider choosing a reward from the list your child made of things they enjoy! 

Bring PBIS Home

Quick Tips

  • Use positive words (try to take the words no, don’t and stop out of your vocabulary).
  • Post both school and home expectations where your child can see them. Use pictures if you need to, to reinforce their understanding.
  • Model the expectations you have for your child.
  • When your child is misbehaving, ask him or her to answer the question “why?”
  • Reward positive behavior often.